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How to be a good wedding guest

This blog post is literally for anyone and everyone! If you’ve ever attended a wedding, or are planning on it, read on! I wanted to write this blog post because I feel that as a guest, it’s important to embrace the day for your couple. Whether they’re friends of yours, family members, or you’re just someone’s plus one, you want to have a fun and good day. And so do the bride and groom. So following these few suggestions will ensure that you and the bride and groom, will have an amazing day!


  1. Keep your phone away! ESPECIALLY during the ceremony! I know this is a super exciting time, and you want to be the first person to snag a picture of the bride and groom as a couple, but they’ve hired a professional photographer to do that for them! The last thing you want is to get in the way of a treasured moment, like the first kiss, because you’re trying to get it on your cell phone before Aunt Bertha. This includes cameras, too! Having your camera or phone out is a huge distraction to people around you. And it’s awful for your photographer to navigate around people leaning in the aisle. Having your phone or camera out creates the risk that the hired photographer will miss the shot that the couple is anxiously waiting for. And you don’t want to be that person! So please, coming from a photographer, keep your phone tucked away. Not only does this make it easier on the hired photographer, but it allows you to be fully present for the couple as well!
  2. RSVP. This is one of the most important things you can do for the couple. Even if you aren’t coming, this allows the couple to have an accurate headcount. RSVPing allows them to count you in for food. If you don’t respond, they won’t count you, which could cause stress on their end as well as on the end of the caterer! If the couple reached out to you with an invite, respond in kind!
  3. Participate! This is one of the best things as a party guest you can do! The couple and their family spend MONTHS planning this event – they want you to enjoy it just as much as they are! Sign the guestbook, dance to the music, and play the games. Everything there was set up just for you to enjoy, so enjoy it!
  4. Be on time. If the couple invited you to their wedding, and it starts at a certain time, be there! You don’t want to be the guest that shows up late. I photographed a wedding one time where the groom’s FAMILY was late! They missed the entire ceremony because of traffic! And they only lived twenty minutes away! So plan to be there between 15-20 minutes early. You don’t want to be the guest sitting down as the bride walks down the aisle.

So, have any more tips to add? Drop them below in the comments and I’ll be sure to add them!

  1. Amber says:

    Great tips! Love the one about participating, I know as a bride I really wanted everyone to enjoy themselves after they had traveled so far to get there!

  2. Sara says:

    Great tips for attending a wedding!

  3. Tania says:

    Excellent and informative!

  4. Jennifer says:

    Great tips!! Thanks 😊

  5. Alison says:

    YES to all of this!!! I just got married in November and the RSVP one was HUGE! (Like…people RSVP’d three days before our wedding saying they were coming 😭)

    • Holly Jones says:

      Ah that’s crazy! I’m so sorry! I’m getting married this September and am praying that people respond before our set RSVP date!

  6. Jillian says:

    These tips are so helpful!

  7. jessica says:

    Very excellent tips! Being on time… can’t tell you how many weddings I have been at where someone weals in WHILE the bride is walking down the isle!

  8. Ooh man, I remember planning my own wedding 10 years ago and the rsvps never came in. Definitely gotta send that card in 😉

  9. Amy says:

    Love these! Number 1 is EVERYTHING!

  10. rachel says:

    The tips on RSVPs….man those things make all the difference for a stressed-out bride! Great tips:)

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